12 Tips for Parental Self-Care NOW as the COVID World Opens Up

Over the past year, we’ve touched on the importance of parental self-care during the pandemic. It’s essential for parents to take care of themselves during these times, especially parents of children and teens who struggle with ADHD, learning disabilities, anxiety and other issues.  After finally having adjusted to self-care practices in quarantine, it may be time to start considering adjusting to life post-pandemic. Although the road to conquering COVID-19 remains long, however, there does seem to be a light at the end of the tunnel. With vaccination rollouts happening at a relatively fast pace in the United States and increasingly more common elsewhere, it may be time to prepare for entering social situations. This may require a little extra energy right now, but there are ways to help make the transition easier for yourself and your family. Here are 12 tips for parental self-care as the world opens up post-pandemic. 

    1. Expect that things will look different post-pandemic.

      Change can be difficult. It’s normal to feel anxious about another change.  To help adjust, plan for unpredictability and some discomfort with the world reopening. And when the discomfort overwhelms you, see if you can find comfort knowing that change is a catalyst for growth.

    2. Create a safety net.

      Identify what you need to feel safe leaving your house. Post a list to remind you. Common list items may include your run-of-the-mill wallet (forms of payment, photo ID, etc.), mask, hand sanitizer, keys, and cell phone. Bringing a water bottle, notebook to keep yourself occupied in semi-public situations, a book, and other items may help you shift slowly into a more social mindset.

      Post-pandemic, your safety net may also expand to include your vaccination card, immune boosters, a thermometer, or oximeter. Be sure your children and teens with ADHD have extra masks and hand sanitizer as they will likely lose things along the way. These items will help you feel more comfortable with this shift.

    3. Navigate the social scene slowly post-pandemic.

      Give yourself time and space to enter the world and meet with people. Follow your own levels of comfort. Keep in mind that your capacity to handle social situations may have changed quite a bit in a more isolated environment. Give yourself grace and space to accept your new energy levels, and adjust your calendar according to them. (Instead of the other way around.)

    4. Wonder instead of worry.

      Shift the perspective from worrying about what might happen to curiosity about the future. Curiosity is the starting point for all creativity and knowledge, after all. Recall times in the past when you’ve been courageous and link those experiences to what’s going on now.

    5. Expect awkward moments and accept them.

      It can be hard to know what to do and say post-pandemic. It’s been a long time since many of us were around humans in person regularly. Putting words to how you feel can help people understand your thought process and brain space. Making jokes can help other people feel comfortable. Honestly? They’re probably feeling similar and are not sure how to explain it.

    6. Create statements to connect.

      Practice makes perfect. Because you now have a shared experience, your small talk might look a little bit different. In fact, it might not be small talk at all. Create a list of statements, thoughts, and questions you’d like to use to engage with people post-pandemic. Questions like “How are things going?” “What are you doing?” “Are you able to work?” “Have you gotten a vaccine yet?” and more can really relay that you care, and open up a deeper conversation.

      Always keep in mind that saying something positive will help the person you’re speaking with be comfortable with you. Kind observations and new things learned can help create depth in your interactions. Positive statements will also leave a better – and perhaps lasting – impression on your acquaintances, family, and friends.

    7. Be empathic.

      It’s been hard on all of us. What’s been tough? What’s gone well? Be sure to engage these questions with yourself often, and acknowledge that others may be struggling with the same thoughts. Open yourself to the fact that you have a shared experience in this pandemic, and there are more opportunities to bond moving forward.

    8. Start small.

       Instead of expecting to go back like gangbusters, be kind to yourself and pace your exposure and contact. This will be difficult for the parents who tackle a million things a day and who are used to a hectic family schedule. Even if you’ve missed your friends, heading back into the world can happen gradually. Allow yourself to dip your toes in first.

    9. Acknowledge the stress pile-on of the past year.

      Our stress bucket, already filled to the brim, is now overflowing. Take some time each day to decompress. Everything has been heavier, and you have been managing as well as you can, given whatever resources (external and internal) you have. Give yourself credit for what you’ve done, not what you haven’t done!

    10. Mind your sleep.

      All of this uncertainty can affect your sleep. What can help to interrupt this pattern is to adjust your bedtime ritual. Keeping away from bright lights and screens for about an hour before you go to bed is ideal for better sleep. Getting some time outdoors during the day will help to naturally regulate your sleep cycle. If your sleep continues to be uneven, consult with your doctor.

    11. Simplify your to-do list.

      We are living on an information overload. Television, phones, radios, and other technological devices are providing information at a rapid pace. Meanwhile, we consume messages from the world around us in multiple other forms of media. There is a lot going on all around us constantly, and it can be hard to absorb everything, let alone have the energy to personally contribute to anything.

      Multitasking is really a myth. To reduce overwhelm, make a conscious effort to do one thing at a time and no more than two.

    12. Consciously lower your expectations. (Or, allow some grace into your life.)

      We have numerous factors that lead to persistent weariness. Making sure the well-being of our children is taken care of while developing and growing our relationships across the board isn’t an easy feat. That, coupled with stressors like work, home and family obligations, and other variants can really take a toll on you. Consider making fewer plans as a form of self-care and lower your expectations for what you “should” accomplish. Focus on what nourishes you.

      Once you are able to focus on the smaller circumstances and things that make things better, you can practice gratitude more – perhaps even with your ADHD child! Acknowledging the positive, noticing individual talents, and doing activities together all show your ADHD child or teen that you care about who they are and you are glad that they are in your lives. It can also help them express gratitude that you may not otherwise feel on a daily basis.

 

The past year has been difficult for everyone. Whether you’re experiencing resilience fatigue – which comes from being depleted mentally, physically, and emotionally – social anxiety, or otherwise, it’s time to prioritize your self-care. As we approach re-opening, keep in mind the 5 C’s of ADHD parenting. Once you’ve established your own self-care routine, consider talking to your teen about it!