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“I’m a mess!” How girls with ADHD knock themselves down and what you can do to help

Lately, I’ve been thinking about all of the negative messages kids with ADHD say to themselves, especially girls. Girls are socialized to please others and take care of them–emotionally, physically and psychologically. Their self-worth is often tied to what people think about them and how … Continue reading “I’m a mess!” How girls with ADHD knock themselves down and what you can do to help

How You can Avoid the 3 Most Common Mistakes Parents Make with Kids with ADHD

As you crawl into bed after another long day struggling about school, chores and technology with your child or teen with ADHD, do you ever feel like throwing in the towel? You’re not alone. Many parents of kids with ADHD feel frustrated and dejected. In … Continue reading How You can Avoid the 3 Most Common Mistakes Parents Make with Kids with ADHD

Manage Anxiety in Your ADHD Kids

This month’s blog is actually an interview that I had with the team at ImpactADHD. com. It focuses on building resilience and competency as a way to help ADHD kids manage their anxiety.  Check it out!  http://impactadhd.com/manage-emotions-and-impulses/kids-with-anxiety/

Reduce Holiday Overwhelm–Simplify!

Despite our best intentions, it seems like most families are frequently more stressed by the holiday season that they would like. Between our regular responsibilities of work, parenting and other life tasks, we now add shopping for gifts, planning family celebrations, attending holiday parties and … Continue reading Reduce Holiday Overwhelm–Simplify!

Get More Love in Your ADHD Family

Too often ADHD families are so busy dealing with the stress of daily living that cultivating loving connections can take a back seat more that everyone would like. Recently I read “The 5 love languages: The secret to love that lasts” by Gary Chapman. In … Continue reading Get More Love in Your ADHD Family

Creating incentives that work

Creating Incentives that Work: How to do you get your child or teen to do things around the house? Do you ask your daughter nicely to set the table at first but then resort to yelling when she won’t get off her phone? Do you calmly … Continue reading Creating incentives that work

Change Writing Challenges into Writing Successes

Over the years, I have noticed that many, many ADHD kids seem to have trouble with writing. While some kids like it because it is a venue for expressing their many ideas quickly and creatively, others despise it because getting even a few words on … Continue reading Change Writing Challenges into Writing Successes

Avoid holiday stress: Practice gratitude with your ADHD child

It’s that holiday time of the year again. In all of the hustle and bustle to plan get togethers, shop for presents, wrap them and prepare festive meals, we sometimes are  just too busy to stop and consider the blessings in our lives. I am not talking … Continue reading Avoid holiday stress: Practice gratitude with your ADHD child

Frustrated and fed up? Use the the 5 C’s of ADHD Parenting!

Parents often ask me for the keys to raise their ADHD kids into effective, happy adults. Sometimes it’s hard for them to see that the struggles of today will eventually transform into the successes of tomorrow. Between the daily reminders about organization, homework completion, doing … Continue reading Frustrated and fed up? Use the the 5 C’s of ADHD Parenting!

To Time Out or Not to Time Out?

Many parents of ADHD children and teens come into my office and report that nothing really works in terms of discipline and consequences. “My son just doesn’t care what we take away” or “my daughter laughs when we ground her.” While all kids balk at … Continue reading To Time Out or Not to Time Out?

Keeping the Vacation Alive After You Return Home

How many of us long for our family summer vacations and then feel like they whiz by all too quickly? We return from our days off with that certain “I’ve just had a break glow” only to see it fade too soon and too fast. … Continue reading Keeping the Vacation Alive After You Return Home

Avoiding the Summer Slump

“School’s over. YAY! I have no homework today!” Do these words sound familiar? Most children and teens with ADHD (and without it) are thrilled to have a break from academics and enjoy their summer–their free time. Yet, children with learning challenges can lose some of the important gains … Continue reading Avoiding the Summer Slump

When “I’m Sorry” Just Doesn’t Cut It Any More

How many times have parents of ADHD kids heard them say, “I’m sorry” but it didn’t feel like they really understood what they had done? That it didn’t feel genuine? Most Adhd kids harbor feelings of being wrong or doing bad things from an early … Continue reading When “I’m Sorry” Just Doesn’t Cut It Any More

Frustrated with a lack of progress? Improve your consistency!

Many parents who are frustrated with their ADHD children come into my office and complain that “No matter what we do, our son (or daughter) doesn’t change. Nothing works.” As I meet with these families, the heart of the problem usually lies with inconsistency. Sometimes … Continue reading Frustrated with a lack of progress? Improve your consistency!

"What did THAT mean?" Is it disrespect or self-expression?

As 21st century parents, we want our kids to share their feelings and talk through their problems with us. We encourage them to let out their feelings and believe that this is basically healthy, which it often is. But sometimes this self-expression is inappropriate and … Continue reading "What did THAT mean?" Is it disrespect or self-expression?

Feeling bad? Help your ADHD child take in the GOOD!

Have you ever noticed how your ADHD son or daughter remembers the negative things people say to them more than the positive? While all human brains are wired for the negativity bias, the minds of ADHD children and adults seem vulnerable to holding onto what … Continue reading Feeling bad? Help your ADHD child take in the GOOD!

Want more family harmony? Change your T.O.V!

It’s a rainy Sunday morning and you decide to make pancakes for the family for breakfast as a nice treat. You whip up the batter and drop large creamy spoonfuls onto the sizzling griddle. As the golden discs bubble, your 11  year old ADHD daughter … Continue reading Want more family harmony? Change your T.O.V!

Celebrate Valentine’s Day with REAL Heart!

This week, television shows, Hallmark cards and advertisements tell us repeatedly that Valentine’s Day is about celebrating love–romantic love, familial love, friendship love. I even saw a Valentine’s Day card for your dog! It can all be a bit overwhelming, especially if you are feeling less … Continue reading Celebrate Valentine’s Day with REAL Heart!

Trouble starting something? Get MOTIVATED!

Have you ever asked your ADHD son to start his homework over and over and still he doesn’t sit down to do it? Even if he is failing the class and it means he won’t be able to play on the basketball team? Even if … Continue reading Trouble starting something? Get MOTIVATED!

Stop reacting and start responding!

It’s been a long day and you finally make it home from work with a car full of groceries which have to be unpacked and then, somehow, magically transformed into a tasty and nutritious meal. You trudge into the house, bags in each hand, and … Continue reading Stop reacting and start responding!

Do more of one good thing in 2015!

As we break out our new calendars, most of us will review the past year and think about what we want to do differently in 2015. We often set our objectives based on what didn’t work out the way we had hoped in 2014. I … Continue reading Do more of one good thing in 2015!

De-stress your holiday season: SIMPLIFY

Every year, at this time in December, my clients and my friends are usually very stressed. Some people have a long list of gifts to buy and wait until the last minute to do their shopping. Some people schedule back-to-back social plans and celebrate with … Continue reading De-stress your holiday season: SIMPLIFY

The Myth of Multi-Tasking

Recently, I attended the Learning and the Brain Conference in Boston where I listened to many wise people talk about how our society is under siege from “information overload.” Daniel Goleman, author of  several books including “Focus” and “Emotional Intelligence” mentioned that we process 5 … Continue reading The Myth of Multi-Tasking

Avoiding the Homework Hassle

It’s 5:30 p.m. You have arrived home from work with a pizza for dinner to find a pile of dishes in the sink, the television blaring and your kids’ stuff strewn on the kitchen counter. To make matters worse, you received a phone call earlier … Continue reading Avoiding the Homework Hassle

Settling Back into School with Success

Once the excitement of returning to school wears off, it’s time to assess how well the transition to school has actually been going. By now, the patterns of waking up early, doing homework and managing activities has settled in–for better or for worse–and the carefree … Continue reading Settling Back into School with Success

Beating the ADHD Back to School Blues

As the beginning of school approaches or, perhaps, has already started, many kids with ADHD/ADD can feel a mix of excitement and dread. Some are excited to see their friends again but dread the start of the academic year. Others would just prefer to avoid … Continue reading Beating the ADHD Back to School Blues

Savor the Summer and Take Your ADHD Kids Outside

As we head into the last weeks of summer and for some, the early return to school, it’s worth taking some time to savor the great outdoors. Spending time in nature is beneficial and fun for all of us: we can kick off our shoes … Continue reading Savor the Summer and Take Your ADHD Kids Outside

Feeling overwhelmed by something? Break it down!

One of the most common problems for many kids with ADHD is getting overwhelmed by a task. Whether it is doing homework, cleaning up a bedroom or looking for a summer job, they feel swamped and don’t know where to begin. Often they avoid doing … Continue reading Feeling overwhelmed by something? Break it down!

The Secret Shame of Having ADHD

I have been working with kids and teens with ADHD for over 20 years and there is one constant that I have seen: every single person has a deep seated sense of shame about having ADHD and being ‘different’ from his or her peers.  Sometimes … Continue reading The Secret Shame of Having ADHD

Spring Anew: Nurturing kids to “Stop, Think and Act”

When the crocuses start to send up their green shoots and the snow finally melts into massive puddles, excitement about the spring infects everyone. Kids happily shed their heavy coats in favor of galoshes and move enthusiastically into the warmer weather. I have been thinking … Continue reading Spring Anew: Nurturing kids to “Stop, Think and Act”

The Benefits of Wandering Attention

Are you concerned when you see your child or teen daydreaming? According to Daniel Goleman, author of many books including his latest one, Focus: The Hidden Driver of Excellence, periodically letting your mind drift is actually good for you. It allows for creativity and rest that … Continue reading The Benefits of Wandering Attention

Snow what?! Getting help with winter chores

When it gets this cold and snowy, there is always extra work at home to do. How can you get your ADHD son or daughter to help you and not hold you back? Whether it’s shoveling snow, clearing off cars or carrying wood, parents need … Continue reading Snow what?! Getting help with winter chores

Making the most out of 2014

Happy new year! As we welcome 2014, many of us are thinking about how to make this year as good as or better than the last. What changes do we want to see for ourselves and for our children? Usually, people with ADHD/ADD can quickly … Continue reading Making the most out of 2014

Personal Project Planners

Whether it’s writing a paper or cleaning up your desk, some projects are just hard to get to and even harder to finish. You simply consider organizing the mound of papers and junk on your kitchen table and a wave of fatigue sweeps over you, … Continue reading Personal Project Planners

The Benefits of Working Backwards

As the days grow shorter and we face turning our clocks back an hour, it seems like a great ‘time’ to talk about the benefits of working backwards in the service of moving forwards. Backwards design means planning in reverse so that you can get … Continue reading The Benefits of Working Backwards

Effective Communication – The Rule of Three

Parents and teachers often complain to me that kids with ADHD don’t remember things they are told. This forgetfulness happens for a number of reasons—poor working memory, internal or external distractions, limited ability to sequence information into steps, anxiety about forgetting—and changing how you talk … Continue reading Effective Communication – The Rule of Three

Using Technology as Friend Not Foe

Everybody needs reminders sometimes. Children and teens with ADHD seem to need more reminders than other youngsters and often feel like they are being nagged. Technology, although a frequent source of distraction, can be extremely helpful in providing kids with ADHD the cues they need … Continue reading Using Technology as Friend Not Foe

Spring Cleaning: Moving Stuff OUT

As the trees and flowers begin to bloom, many parents take a look around their homes and long to clean out the family nest. Sometimes, the task seems just too overwhelming and you don’t get any further than a big sigh. At other times, you … Continue reading Spring Cleaning: Moving Stuff OUT