What can you do when your kid says “No” repeatedly? What is your child really trying to communicate? “Recently, I was in my office with Kieran, an eighth-grade boy who was complaining about being bored after school to his mom, Tara, and me. ‘There’s nothing to do except gaming and you only let me do that for an hour. What else am I supposed to do?’ His mom gently suggested going back to some activities that had previously interested him — guitar lessons, indoor soccer, swim team, or improvisational theater classes. ‘No, no, no.’ His mom turned to me and said, ‘I used to do this to my mom. She called it ‘Shoot ‘em up, and knock ‘em down.’ There’s never a right answer.'”
Tag: School & Learning
ADDitude Mag – “Working Memory vs. Short-Term Memory: What’s the Difference?”
“While there’s some debate in the field about this, it’s generally held that short-term memory is super quick: It stores information briefly. Working memory is related to short-term memory, but it lasts slightly longer and is involved in the manipulation of information.”
ABC4 Utah – Good Things Utah: What do you get when you combine Krispy Kreme and Twix?
“It’s time to start letting go of the shame of daydreaming and be proud of being scatterbrained. Many parents and teachers are concerned when they see children or teens daydreaming or spacing out. They wrongfully assume that daydreaming is not “productive” and is, therefore, a waste of time. However, periodically letting your mind drift is actually good for you. It allows for creativity, exploration, and rest that the brain doesn’t otherwise engage in. Letting go of the shame of daydreaming is key The importance of occasional attention wandering is something that author Daniel Goleman refers to as “open awareness.” So how do you harness it? Tune in or click here for more: https://www.yourtango.com/experts/dr-sharon-saline/embrace-wandering-mind.”
YourTango: Daydreamers Are Basically Creative Geniuses — How To Harness A Wandering Mind
“It’s time to start letting go of the shame of daydreaming and be proud of being scatterbrained. Many parents and teachers are concerned when they see children or teens daydreaming or spacing out. They wrongfully assume that daydreaming is not “productive” and is, therefore, a waste of time. However, periodically letting your mind drift is actually good for you. It allows for creativity, exploration, and rest that the brain doesn’t otherwise engage in.”
YourTango: It’s Not Just Puppy Love — 4 Things You Must Do When Your Tween Has A Crush
“Is your tween showing signs of a first crush? Do you notice them spending more time in front of the mirror, carefully picking out just the right outfit, and doing their hair? Are they suddenly showering more often, texting with intensity, or casually dropping someone’s name in conversation with a slight blush? Brace yourself: It’s your tween’s first crush! They are awash in a range of new, powerful emotions that, when combined with the hormonal surges related to puberty, might transform them into someone you barely recognize!”
ADDitude Mag – Q: “Fear of Failure Holds Me Back. How Do I Let Go of Past Mistakes?”
“When you make choices that hold you back in any way, what you’re really doing is depriving the world of the uniqueness that is you. Risk is an inherent part of life – and you can’t live a full life where you’re not taking risks and sharing all you have to offer with others.”
ADDitude Mag – When Perfectionism Stems from ADHD: Challenging the Fallacy of “Not Good Enough”
When Perfectionism Stems from ADHD: Challenging the Fallacy of “Not Good Enough”
“Perfectionism, when unhealthy, drives a person to exhaustion striving for a flawlessness that’s neither reasonable nor healthy. Though it may seem contradictory, perfectionist traits may stem from ADHD — an overcompensation for past errors or for feeling “not good enough.” Letting go of perfectionism does not mean eliminating worries around mistakes, failure, and judgment, but rather accepting that they are part of life — and one that can help us grow.”
ADDitude Free Download: The Eisenhower Matrix for ADHD Decision-Making
The Eisenhower Matrix for ADHD Decision-Making
The Eisenhower Matrix is a simple, effective decision-making tool for determining which tasks deserve our immediate action, our long-term attention, our delegation skills, and our circular bins.
What Is the Eisenhower Matrix?
“It’s human nature. When a fire sparks up, we drop everything to fight it. But in our ADHD lives, there are little fires everywhere. And we get so busy extinguishing flames sometimes that we can spend a whole day — maybe a week — spinning around and around in a mess of fire retardant. We’re exhausted but have nothing to show for our time or energy. If this sounds familiar, let me introduce you to the Eisenhower Matrix, a decision-making tool devised by the 34th President of the United States — a five-star general who accomplished a dizzying amount of important work in his two terms. Use the chart below to help determine which flare-ups could be delegated or ignored, and which ones actually deserve your precious attention.”
YourTango – The 5 Most Overlooked Symptoms Of Inattentive ADHD & How To Cope With Each
“Inattentive ADHD is often characterized by difficulties in keeping focused, staying organized, and following directions or conversations. These experiences may lead to a sustained pattern of losing things, careless mistakes, and mental fatigue. There are three different types of ADHD, each with differences in how they present and in how the affect a person’s life. As a psychologist, I understand how often the issues associated with inattentive ADHD are often misunderstood as defiance, lack of comprehension, lower intelligence, or laziness…”
YourTango – 5 Ways People With ADHD Can Forgive Themselves & Release Their Shame
“If you’re a person with ADHD, you might find yourself in a cycle of shame. Shame for things you may have said, for not “reading a room” the way a neurotypical person might, or shame simply from a childhood where people made you feel bad or less-than because of your differences. Now that you’re an adult, how can you shift away from criticism and resentment and move towards forgiveness and letting go?…”
